When I was engaged our Premarital Counselors recommended we read The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman and now I can’t recommend it enough. The book explains and layouts out the 5 love languages: gift giving, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and words of affirmation. To help you and your significantly identify your love languages take the online love languages quiz. Naturally, we each love in the way we want to be loved, but honestly, that is not the best practice for a strong marriage because we are different people. The 5 Love Languages teaches us to speak and love our significant other and loved ones the way “they need to be loved”.
This is especially important for engaged couples who are planning a wedding and preparing for marriage. Wedding planning is a very emotional time in your life, you will encounter each of these love languages among your parents, family, and bridal party. I have learned that knowing how each person needs to be loved makes this process easier. Learning what’s really important to each person involved in your wedding lessens the drama and makes the whole process and wedding day memorable for everyone. I suggest inviting your family and bridal party to take the online love languages quiz. and share their results with you. This will assist you to plan out special moments for everyone that will last a lifetime.
To help you plan how you’re going to express your love and appreciation for your fiancé(e), parents, bridal party & guests on your wedding day we breakdown the 5 Love Languages and ways to fit it into your wedding plans.
Words of affirmation are any spoken or written words that confirm, support, uplift, and empathize with another person in a positive manner. If someone is drawn to words of affirmation as their love language, it’s because they believe words really matter and help them give a voice to how they feel inside.
Words of Affirmations during wedding planning and on wedding day
If this is someone‘s love language, they view time as a priceless gift they want to give and receive in relationships, and although they appreciate expressions of love in other languages, alternate types of affection aren’t considered as meaningful as time together.
Quality Time moments during wedding planning and on your wedding day
For people whose love language is Acts of Service, “actions speak louder than words”. They appreciate and feel your love towards them when you go above and beyond to help them. Anything that can make your partner feel appreciated or that can help make wedding planning easier will go a long way. Look for small acts that can create some big responses from your partner.
Acts of Service in wedding planning and on wedding day
Of all the love languages, the act of gift-giving is the most often misconstrued. To some, it can seem materialistic or as if the recipient is fixated on things versus love itself. That’s not the case. Oftentimes receiving a gift is a physical reminder that they are loved. Gifts come in all shapes and sizes. They can be bought, made, or inherited.
Gift Giving in wedding planning and on wedding day
Physical touch is one of the easiest ways to be intimate with your partner and even though it is physical, it can create emotional intimacy and bonding love. One of the benefits to being in a relationship with someone whose love language is physical touch— you can express love without having to speak, without having to do the dishes or buy a gift. Physical touch is one of the easiest ways to be intimate with your partner and even though it is physical, it can create emotional intimacy. Back rubs are a nice gesture to relax your partner as well as communicate that you love them in their own language.
Physical Touch in wedding planning and on wedding day
When I was engaged our Premarital Counselors recommended we read The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman and now I can’t recommend it enough. The book explains and layouts out the 5 love languages: gift giving, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and words of affirmation. To help you and your significantly identify […]